Okay, Ted didn’t really approve this message, but he most likely would have. More on that in a link later.
Most men have a very strong protective instinct that leads them to step up and do things that will keep their loved ones safe. They stand ready to leap into action to defend the lives of their loved ones at any cost. Always on the watch for the predators, these guys are willing to do whatever it takes to protect those they care about. The movies show men all the time who stand up and fight for what is right, and these two-dimensional heroes inspire us to meet any challenges this fallen world can throw at us, right? Well, almost…
Our society has fallen into the trap of confusing what we see on the big screen as models for our own behavior. “Real Men©” are stoic, and never express emotion. Not even to their closest loved ones. “Real Men©” know that emotion is weakness, and weakness cannot be tolerated. “Real Men©” set their jaw, grit their teeth and walk out to face physical challenges that would kill “lesser” men on a daily basis, right? Wrong. Real men battle with doubts and fears and temptations on a daily basis, yet still do the best they can to protect their loved ones. Real men are tempted to do bad things, especially when those bad things are overwhelmingly accepted as the “norms” by society.
Pornography. It’s becoming the “norm” in society. Don’t believe me? Wake up, and pay attention, because we have prime-time commercials that use soft-core porn as their way of selling everything from fast food to deodorant. And the availability of hard-core porn is right at the fingertips of anyone with an internet connection. We’ve allowed the media to sexualize young women and girls to an extent that it’s no wonder that sexual assaults can happen right out in the open in front of a Spring Break crowd without anyone lifting a finger to stop it.
But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Matthew 5:28 (NIV)
I am a recovering porn addict, so I have heard and used all the arguments about how it’s just “harmless” fantasy and no one gets hurt. Tell that to the victims of Ted Bundy. Inviting pornography into your life and into your home WILL affect you and your marriage. Article after article, here and here and here are just a few examples of what the consequences of indulging in this particularly vile temptation can be.
One of the ways that pornography is more insidious than a substance abuse problem is because you cannot unsee what you have seen, no matter how much you may wish you could. For a substance, you at least have to either go get it, or arrange for it to come to you. For porn, it’s not only a simple “click” of the mouse away; it’s already in your head and available 24/7. And like a drug, it takes more and it takes different, which means you will eventually find yourself looking at things you could not have even imagined existed before.
Turn my eyes away from worthless things; preserve my life according to your word.
Protect yourself and your family from this threat. There are tools, and there is help. Don’t give in to the enemy on this; strive for the light and what is good. It’s worth it.