Growing Stronger

In August 2014, my husband and I separated. Our marriage was full of pain and hurt, but we still loved each other. We were just unsure of how to rebuild our relationship. In my uncertainty of how to fix my marriage, I made the decision to separate from my husband because I was tired of being unhappy. My husband made the decision to move back to Clarksville while I remained in another state with our children. One weekend, when exchanging our children for the weekend, the kids brought a bulletin home from Grace Church of the Nazarene. I glanced through it and noticed one of their upcoming events was a one-day marriage seminar. At that point in our separation I felt that we both wanted to stay together, but we didn’t know how to rebuild our marriage. Attending the seminar and going over our wedding vows in detail helped to give us the tools to rebuild our marriage. The seminar gave us hope that we could make it and grow stronger in our marriage. Married 11...

Divine Providence

I grew up in Detroit Michigan with hard working parents and one older brother and one older sister. Being the youngest, and the unwanted child, to my mother, I was always and consistently being told I was never good enough, unwanted and unloved; which I believe is when I started to become physically violent. I couldn’t hit her or my father or siblings, so I became physical with any girl or boy I could to take my misery out on. As I got older, the physical violence progressed to drinking in high school and led to even heavier drinking in college. After that, I got married the first time; which was very tumultuous; and had my daughter. That marriage ended due to me being angry all the time, drinking often, and cheating non stop. As the years went by I continued my horrible behavior and met my husband that I am married to now. Being married to him and moving all over the country due to his military career, and me not having my daughter due to my drinking and anger issues, led to me turning to drugs. I had done drugs in the past, mostly cocaine, but was able to walk away from it. Well, not anymore. Now it was massive amounts of pain pills; up 20 in a 16 hour period of time; and that was everyday. It had started to cause an obvious rift in my marriage. I doctor shopped, ER hopped etc… and was never sober, which meant my husband was having to leave work to take me to doctors and emergency rooms or wherever I needed...

Tragedy Struck

Cristy and Scott Thomas had a HUGE part in saving my marriage. Late January of 2014 I left my husband, and decided that God didn’t know what He was doing in leading us together. After I decided that life with my husband wasn’t as bad as life with my ex, I came back and “worked” on my marriage. We were referred to the Thomas’ as mentors, and I thought I was making an attempt. They seemed to know adversity in life, and they had great advice… the problem was that I thought they had a shiny outlook on life that wasn’t realistic. They said they had put all the practices to work that they were telling us to do, and I really didn’t believe them, ’cause honestly, who LIKES to talk to their spouse more than their best friend, right? So I halfheartedly followed their example, and then blamed their advice as the reason we weren’t a shiny new couple after a couple months. In Feb we became pregnant with our 4th child, and I figured that was going to be the thing that solidified us as a couple, or I could use it as a reason to leave him for good. I grew further and further away from my husband during the following 6 months. I would text Cristy at all hours, complaining about him and our life, saying nothing was working, I was done with it all. She would not only answer me every time, but it was always with scripture and prayer for us and our situation. She told me that she prayed for us all...

The Courage to Reach Out

I thank the Lord everyday for finding the courage to ask for help. My marriage was falling apart because of the lack of communication and emotion; we gave up on each other… I will never forget my first phone call to Cristy. Immediately, she showed me grace and comfort and for once I did not feel alone. Cristy encouraged me to go to Church as a family. We have been attending for a year now. My husband and I have been married for 8 years and it is stronger today than it has ever been. Our marriage was restored and as a couple we are closer to each other and, most importantly, to God. Having Cristy and Scott as our marriage mentors is a blessing. I have learned to put my trust in God through Cristy and Scott’s guidance. For the endless amount of support and love they have given to us, I will forever be humbled. “As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace”. ~ Ephesians 4:1-3, NIV This verse is what my husband and I live by; to be patient and gentle, and most importantly, to bear with one another in LOVE. Married 8...

The Light of Truth

My husband and I met Scott and Cristy through Pastor Steve at Grace Church of the Nazarene. He thought they would be the best fit to be our mentor couple since our stories were similar. There had been some issues of infidelity, and we were struggling to work through them on our own. We started meeting with them in May 2012, which happened to be right after I had found out that my husband had an account on a dating site. Immediately after I found that out, I had someone to contact. I remember breaking down on the phone with her and being able to share everything that I was feeling. She listened, helped open my eyes to see different perspectives on things, gave advice and would always pray for me before we got off the phone. She and Scott continued to mentor us through one of the most difficult times in our marriage. In February of 2013, they met with us at the church, where my husband finally admitted that he had cheated on me. After his confession we were able to begin the process of rebuilding our marriage with their help. Cristy would always advise me to pray for the truth to come out and assured me that I would know in my heart once it was all out. I remember that I did not feel this way in February. Then in March I received text messages from the other woman showing conversations between her and my husband. Again, I was devastated, but I still had someone to talk to and share my feelings with. I always felt that Cristy understood me and cared for me. We discussed separation and how it would be best...

A Shot in the Dark

August 10, 2012 – our marriage was coming to an end and had taken a dark path we had never thought possible. Headed for divorce, jail, split family relationships, along with an entire family already dealing with the devastating terminal diagnosis of our daughter. Now a husband with a gunshot wound and paralysis, and with myself banned from my own home. A few days later a friend suggested I contact Cristy Thomas. After hours of her listening to my testimony, and her telling me what she had been through in her marriage, I was left feeling understood; my feelings were real and validated for the first time in many years. Cristy suggested I give my husband the number of her husband, Scott Thomas. Unsure my husband would respond, my daughter and I gave him Scott’s contact info and asked him to at least contact Scott for someone to talk with. Here are his words: As my world crashed around me, the name Scott, along with a phone number, had been passed to me. After hours alone feeling there was no way to fix the damage to the marriage, I made the call. Scott spent all night with me as I reexamined my life. He showed me the door and was adamant that with help, my life and marriage could be saved. Scott’s testimony reminded me that all things are possible with Christ, whom I had turned away from many years prior. Scott has a gift and will ALWAYS hold a special place in my heart. “Remember this; whoever turns a sinner from the error of their ways, will save them from death and cover over multitude of sins” James 5:20 With Scott’s guidance and reminder...